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      I took it as an affirmation that being a feminist doesn’t make you less of a man. Instead of phrasing it as a double negative “it’s not unmanly to call out misogyny…” they went with the simpler but potentially misleading phrasing in the screenshot.

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        Yeah, I think perhaps I’m taking a less charitable view of the phrasing than I could. I just tend to bristle a bit at what feels like gender proscriptive phrasing. “Stand against mysogny, even if nobody is watching.” would be more inclusive.

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          Your criticism is completely reasonable, if the author didn’t meant to be proscriptive a change in wording would help them get their message across. As it is, there’s a lot of room for interpretation!

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      Yeah, I’m not a fan either. Turning the mechanism of toxic masculinity towards a good cause doesn’t make the mechanism good, and risks reinforcing the mechanism. Standing up against misogyny is something that all people should do regardless of gender.

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        Well assuming no non binary people because OOP is too basic to comprehend them; it’s not like women can accurately call that shit out when we’re not looking.

        Edit: except gender flipped zatoichi. Obviously.

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          I agree with the message that men should call out misogyny when women are not present, just not with the delivery which preys upon and perpetuates insecurities that men have about their masculinity. They are valid in their masculinity whether or not they are a good person, and being a good person should be the motivation, not insecurity.

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    I’m in a friendship group where only one of us is cishet (we joke that he is our token straight to show that we are not heterophobic). When someone else came out as bi, he started flirting with him, since he was so confident in his own sexuality. If anything, this highlights the insecurities that some people have when they can’t do something because it would make then “look gay”.