My boys did the cleaning and my husband is doing the cooking this year. I’m reading on the couch and offer support (if directed) from time to time. THIS. IS. THE. BEST. If you don’t do it for the next gen, do it for yourself.
Cooking may be a feminine thing in the US, but many cultures don’t see it that way. At least in France, Italy, China, and Japan (each having their reputation for food) a chief is most likely a male. And it is kind of abnormal for an adult man to do not know anything about cooking.
But yes, don’t let your boys grow thinking they may remain kids all their life. Women of thwir generation are most likely going to expect from them they be grown up…
A chef isn’t someone who cooks. Chef are, as far as I can tell, a male dominated profession. This is about learning to (home) cook meals. Those are two very different things and skill sets although similar in product.
Take, for example, Drew Talbert’s shorts. Kitchen staff is portrait as 3 man and a woman, iirc. Well known cooks on YouTube such as Kenji Lopez-Alt and Helen Rennie are 1-1 for me. I have also come across the Ethan Cheblowski(?) and the Italo-American whose name I forgot.
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Chefs are a male dominated profession in North America. Cooking for family falls under the hosting and caregiving roles, which are considered feminine.
These posts are so outdated. This should have been a PSA in 1995. Cooking is not considered feminine in the US. This generation is being raised by millennials that have made a massive split from the way their parents raised them and traditional roles. Kids are also exposed to men in the kitchen way more. Just think about the ridiculous amount of cooking shows on tv and being advertised. Also, I don’t know about anyone else, but cooking the turkey was one of the few times my dad actually did go into the kitchen and was considered a manly task in my mind. And the parents that do still raise their kids with those outdated family roles aren’t gonna be persuaded by some “woke” tweet. I think the message should be just to involve your kids in the preparation of things like this. Give them responsibilities. Start teaching them how to adult early in life.
I cook everyday.
If you ask my toddler where dada is… He will tell you “in the kitchen”
I only use cast iron… so the kiddo will grow up using his great grandmother’s cookware and eventually inherit them.
Edit: blocked this community… (Or well it will be in a moment)
Additionally men need to know how to cook. Because it shouldn’t be left to just one individual in the household.
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Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.
Huh. I didn’t even realize what the group was as it was in my All feed. I’ll look into blocking this instance.
I cook more than my wife does. I don’t think this generation is like that at all
More specifically:
Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.
Gender critical talk like gender stereotypes? Seems like this post would be a violation of that rule.
Ed: I’m curious, another poster pointed out the fact you simply took “my wife” as meaning man woman when it doesn’t actually mean that at this point I’m the same way partner doesn’t imply same sex/identifier. Wouldn’t that too be gender critical? Whos taking ids or defining woman here?
Lesbian erasure
Excuse me, I am a lesbian. OP said that they cook more than their wife thus they contradict the post. They are implying that they are a man that is in the kitchen.
So your saying a woman can’t call a woman their wife?
Look at the age of my account. I literally just joined this Lemmy stuff and don’t know how it works yet. Also don’t post things on the Internet if you don’t want men to see it and call you out on your bullshit. Anyway, now I know the rules and I will be off to other places! Have fun y’all. However I can’t promise that I won’t accidentally stumble across another one of these and not notice where it’s from. But I’m sure you’ll live
My husband does most of the cooking in our house. I’ll help with dinner today but for the most part I’ll be keeping the three year old entertained while he cooks
Same here. He likes cooking, it helps him unwind. I do most of the reno work
Reality check from Europe: not the case around here anymore. My parents split cleaning/cooking and shopping. Not the best choice as you would like to still have some cooking skills.
America is probably a couple years behind the 8Ball though.
That being said this gives great opportunity for reverse sexism(aka just as vile sexism, still funny when confusing olds). But I also know a family where load is shared between the adults and one other where no one claims to be able cook. Their pumpkin soup was pretty good, still.
… Knife skills on the other hand…
I hope so, but it’s not ubiquitous. My German mother in law bought us a bunch of cleaning gadgets as a housewarming gift and showed me how to use them instead of my husband the year before last. She also always has me chop vegetables to prep for any meals instead of my husband even though he’s a butcher and I am not good at uniform slices. She doesn’t seem to think my husband’s above it, just somehow incapable (also true of her daughter’s husband but not her daughter, so it’s not just that she raised him).
Most people my age seem to be able to feed themselves and keep their house clean regardless of gender, though.
we can both make you a meal that will make you throw up!
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More specifically:
Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.
(For context, I checked OP’s comments and am not merely assuming)
Oops didn’t see what community this is, sorry.
It’s fine no problem thanks Rooskie ☺️
