Most people don’t. Social media makes it seem like they do, but most people’s lives are at least somewhat messy.
Because it was taken from us. We used to divide labor, taking care of the home was considered a full time job for 1 adult.
Now here we are. Where it now takes 2 incomes, or frankly more, to raise a family and have a home. Now you have no time to do anything and purchase more expensive convince items to try to claw back time.
1 income should be enough if they want us to start having kids again
Not even just one person. For most of history people mostly didn’t live in a household with just 2 adults. That “dream” was an artificial setup as well. Now, if we had more community services, like common kitchens, child care etc, that might even be attainable but I’m not even sure it’s preferable.
That’s the neat part, I don’t!
It’s impossible because we are social animals. We are evolved to live in tribes and extended families. We are trying to achieve things alone that our ancestors achieved in groups of up to 100 people. Rugged individualism is killing all of us.
The trick is to live in a big public space together with all your friends and share the labor, the rewards, and the love. Then reap genuine enjoyment and physical/emotional growth from the work you’re doing while you support others doing the same.
The problem is when you forced to compartmentalize the tasks, with the expectation that “exercising” and “working” and “socializing” and “eating” and “cleaning” are all distinct activities you micromanage. Living together with people you enjoy spending time around goes a long, long way towards killing many birds with few stones. Then making and eating and cleaning up food isn’t something you do distinct from hanging out and relaxing. Biking around gets you energized and sends you where you need to go. Many hands make light work of seemingly onerous tasks. Hell, sharing a shower with your partner(s) can be as intimate as it is efficient.
But all of this is predicated on a foundation - social roots you build up over years/decades. Every time you change schools or look for a new job on the other side of the country or having a falling out with family/friends or switch housing leases because the rent went up or chase a new zip code because the school your kid goes to sucks or watch a close friend or old neighbor do the same, it fucks everything back up to square one.
People who have this close-knit, long-term social circle and don’t need to constantly uproot themselves can “do it all” easier than the folks who are told to endlessly hustle in search of that next nut.
Too bad the only way to achieve this currently is joining a fucking cult
Look into co-housing communities or eco-villages. There are ways to do this even within our overly bureaucratic system.
Do those communities just accept anyone in your area? In all the cities I’ve lived, you have to apply to these communities with a desired skill from a list; it’s necessary for filtering out people who think making lattes and doing tarot readings are key skills.
