Esoteric Ebb has a quest reward that makes you slightly less confused about gender. The tl;dr version of that very long text is “Be kind to all”.
And then you can chose between getting a bonus when speaking to either male characters or female characters.
I like this game very much. Highly recommend it.
PS: I am playing as The Cleric


Esoteric Ebb has some of the best gender discourse I’ve seen in some time (ever ?) in a videogame. Hell, it’s even embedded in its setting and you can have a whole discussion about it with a magic scholar. The take is pretty cool.