Wir hatten einen Roborock, der war wirklich gut, bis er nur noch Fehler warf (~1 Jahr). Wir haben dann geben ein Ecovacs-Gerät getauscht, das signifikant schlechter putzt, will es ewig die Mop-Findet verliert, aber trotzdem Stiftung-Warentest-Sieger war. Da es aber keine Fehler wirft, sondern zumindest versucht zu putzen, bleibt es erstmal da.

If I had kids, I would take them seriously. Just because they’re kids doesn’t mean they don’t know how they feel or what they need.

It may not be possible to avoid trauma, but it’s absolutely possible to teach people about safe and less safe coping mechanisms for their trauma. This one is decidedly less safe.

Wtf they should be writing this stuff into the sky and spamming the net with ads for it.

My sincerest thank you for the post. Maybe Me-Time for women in the future won’t mean “I finally got time to do the Kegels” …

It is to a certain degree. You don’t bring your love for milk shakes to your “business attire only” office job. You may love Hentai, but you’re not telling the person next to you during an opera visit. These are aspects of you that don’t match the occasion, so you skip that. Most people do this naturally, they don’t spend much thought on it.

Then there’s “masking” as used by neurodivergent people. That’s an entirely different matter. More info an that is over at neurodivergentinsights.

You’re not dangerous, so no you’d not be locked up. What you need is decent boundaries, not a response.

You’re entirely separate from your mom. It’s unlikely that there’s a chip, so the question is how you can enforce that separation in a sustainable (for you) way. A simple “I don’t agree” would probably help you feel less submissive without giving her grounds for more debate.

Guilt is a part of depression, it’s built right into how you stay passive and sad. But you’re not guilty, you’re just struggling and that is - ask anyone except maybe your mom - really just part of the human condition. 90% of western adults have a depressive episode at least once in their life (stats by a therapist I used to go to), so you’re in good company.

In addition ask yourself this: If you had kids, would you think they owed you in return for your support? As a parent it’s something I feel you opt into when you decide to make babies. You don’t just pop them out and then make demands for the years you had to change diapers or drive them to school.

What your mom thinks or not ultimately hasn’t more or less value than your own thoughts and opinions. Let it go and focus on you and how you can limit your exposure to her opinions.