Dunno about you, but I have heard “oppe og ikke gråter” from my parents (vikværsk dialekt). I thought it was something only they said until I saw this picture the first time, though. So I can confirm it is a real thing.

Lutheran practice, mainly. (Wikipedia link) Honestly never occurred to me that there are places where this isn’t normal (though the candles aren’t usually in wreaths here, just in regular candle sticks with four candles).

I assumed op meant exclusive access in the sense of “this is mine, and nobody else is allowed to use it”.