

I personally find meaning in doing what I can to make the world in general better. I view being a “steward of the earth”, as it were, as being enough of a meaning to my life. Not for religious reasons, but because any bit of help I can do makes a difference to people and causes I care about.
In the era we are in now, with me being in the US, I am describing this feeling as being like a nurse in hospice. Several of my family have been either hospice nurses or patients, and it informs a lot of my view. Even if the little things I do don’t “cure” or “fix” anything, it makes life more comfortable for someone who needs it. I do more when I can, but this helps me not feel useless during times I can’t do more.




The number of people who misgender me simply because they hear I am trans. Not maliciously, they see me, a guy, and hear I am trans, and immediately assume I am transitioning to womanhood. They often get very weirdly offended and a bit hostile when I politely correct them and explain that I am FTM.
It is so frequent that I expect it to happen now, especially if I am dealing with anything medical. I have had to explain this to my insurance company at least a dozen times, because they were denying coverage for things and citing my identity, because “trans don’t need testosterone, they need estrogen” or “trans means you want a uterus, so you can’t get pap smears”.
Even in queer spaces I get this! Every year for Pride I have made a game out of it, where I wear an outfit that is androgynous or masculine and a big pronoun pin. If I get misgendered more than I am gendered correctly by other people at Prise, I wear a bigger pin the next year. I am on year 5 of this experiment, and I need a bigger pin for this year.
It mostly surprises me because I will go to places that I have been told by other trans people (most of whom are my friends who are trans women) are accepting. I don’t understand how so many places can be accepting of some trans people and not others. And that is without me getting super specific and telling people that I am technically nonbinary.