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Cake day: June 7th, 2023

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  • The number of people who misgender me simply because they hear I am trans. Not maliciously, they see me, a guy, and hear I am trans, and immediately assume I am transitioning to womanhood. They often get very weirdly offended and a bit hostile when I politely correct them and explain that I am FTM.

    It is so frequent that I expect it to happen now, especially if I am dealing with anything medical. I have had to explain this to my insurance company at least a dozen times, because they were denying coverage for things and citing my identity, because “trans don’t need testosterone, they need estrogen” or “trans means you want a uterus, so you can’t get pap smears”.

    Even in queer spaces I get this! Every year for Pride I have made a game out of it, where I wear an outfit that is androgynous or masculine and a big pronoun pin. If I get misgendered more than I am gendered correctly by other people at Prise, I wear a bigger pin the next year. I am on year 5 of this experiment, and I need a bigger pin for this year.

    It mostly surprises me because I will go to places that I have been told by other trans people (most of whom are my friends who are trans women) are accepting. I don’t understand how so many places can be accepting of some trans people and not others. And that is without me getting super specific and telling people that I am technically nonbinary.


  • I personally find meaning in doing what I can to make the world in general better. I view being a “steward of the earth”, as it were, as being enough of a meaning to my life. Not for religious reasons, but because any bit of help I can do makes a difference to people and causes I care about.

    In the era we are in now, with me being in the US, I am describing this feeling as being like a nurse in hospice. Several of my family have been either hospice nurses or patients, and it informs a lot of my view. Even if the little things I do don’t “cure” or “fix” anything, it makes life more comfortable for someone who needs it. I do more when I can, but this helps me not feel useless during times I can’t do more.






  • NGL, as a pagan myself, it is disrespectful both to pagans and to the women who were murdered in witch trials to pretend that they were actual witches. The overwhelming majority of women killed in the so-called “witch trials” were not doing anything that could be considered witchcraft, and they would consider being called a witch an insult.

    We can condemn this bullshit without disrespecting these women by forcing a term on them that they would never have used themselves.