Not even just presence. The mere thought of our existence is a threat. Joanne seems absolutely terrified that any random woman she sees has even the remotest chance of being a cis passing trans woman and therefore a sexual assault of her waiting to happen. It doesn’t matter how ridiculous it sounds. That genuinely seems to be her fear.
It should be! But my gods it feels like there’s a very loud portion of at least the online trans community that thinks that the only valid ways to be trans are “fem-leaning androgynous enby” if you’re AFAB and “trans woman” if you’re AMAB. As if the second that they can look at you and read “that’s a dude” you stop being valid or something. Which is so messed up.
I don’t know, I think that’s part of why I’ve always vibed more with the transmasc crowd than the transfem one despite being AMAB. It’s not the same but I spent my entire life getting bullied by the men in it for being too effeminate. I had a baby doll that I took care of while my Mom took care of my baby brother when she did something I couldn’t help with. I cried too easily, I didn’t care about cars and sports like they did, I had no interest in sex. It was like the way everyone else saw me was “girl badly pretending to be a boy” except I didn’t feel like either.
Dude there are still so many people even other trans people that think trans men and transmasc nonbinary people aren’t actually real it’s fucking wild. I’ve seen so many of them get treated by default like the only reason they transition is because they are so tired of misogyny they decided to join The Patriarchy to escape it.
It’s like people literally believe "Eww, Men are evil who would want to be one willingly?" idk, I feel like that’s a pretty strong argument that they are actually trans but what do I know?
Trans means all trans people and that means enbies, men, and women.
Yes! My gods the experience I had when I first started actually figuring things out around 10 years ago was horrible because of people not getting this. I tried to join a few online communities that claimed to be for trans people or at least trans inclusive and it was such a horrible experience. Multiple large communities the literal second they learned I’m AMAB and not on HRT I either got outright banned, told my existence was triggering to other members and I should either leave or not participate in any discussions, or told that I’m not actually nonbinary.
That I just have too much “internalized transmisogyny” and I’ll be so much happier once my egg cracks the rest of the way. The last one particularly hurt because I’d had an entire gender crisis back in high school and I literally told them that the idea of being a woman felt just as wrong but in different ways as being a man and they just laughed at me like I didn’t know what I was talking about. Took me so long to actually start willingly engaging with trans communities again.
You can hide those porn games in your preferences at least. Not the same, but at least you don’t have to see them if you don’t want to. It even distinguishes between games that have nudity/sex and those that are flat out porn.
I was about to ask exactly this. What do you think the odds are on that “trans” employee just being a cis woman that’s just like… Kind of butch? I can’t tell you how often transphobes have harassed her for “being in the wrong bathroom” because she’s 5’10" (~178cm) with an undercut and wide shoulders.