• agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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    18 days ago

    How many times does one have to understand, listen patiently anyway, and be proven correct 5 minutes later before it stops being an assumption?

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      18 days ago

      be proven correct

      ADHD is having difficulty focusing.

      Hubris is assuming your inability to stay focused is some kind of precog superpower.

      Annoying to deal with kids who insist “I know what you were going to say” one minute and “You didn’t tell me that!” the next. Infuriating to deal with adults who double down with therapy language.

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        18 days ago

        ADHD is having difficulty focusing.

        Isn’t it more having difficulty focusing for extended periods?

        I’d say the phenomenon is more hyperfocusing long enough to figure out the point, and then getting frustrated as the speaker takes a long time to illustrate that point.

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          18 days ago

          Isn’t it more having difficulty focusing for extended periods?

          According to OP, they can’t even make it to the end of a sentence. shrug

          I’d say the phenomenon is more hyperfocusing long enough to figure out the point,

          and then getting frustrated as the speaker takes a long time to illustrate that point.

          I definitely get feeling annoyed when someone rambles. And I get tuning out when a work presentation or a school lecture drags on. And I get feeling frustrated when a conversation or discussion is sidelined by minutiae.

          But the “Um, aktuly, I don’t need to listen to this because I already know the answer” shit is extremely toxic behavior that inevitably sets people up to fail. If you’ve ever had to deal with student drivers before, it’s the way someone responds moments before they bend a fender.

          Getting Overwhelmed is entirely different from Knowing The Answer In Advance.

            • Honytawk@discuss.tchncs.de
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              17 days ago

              You assumed wrong … again.

              The only thing you are doing is proving their point.

              You understand less from the sentence being said than you think. You only assume you were correct because you also listened with half an ear to their explanation.

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      17 days ago

      It sounds like you’re asking what the acceptable error rate is. I think that depends how much you respect the people that you don’t want to listen to.

      What happens when you get it wrong or when they think you might get it wrong? Then you’ve just created a big scene, but it’s not just your problem, it’s their problem too.