like, if I’m nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I’m also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it’s a real double-bind, and something I don’t experience with women
^ this tbh
I actually have the same problem as a woman - was she being really friendly or just doing her job? I just assume she is doing her job.
If there was genuine interest, then she’ll initiate by giving you her details. That’s my philosophy anyway.