Just looking for direction, input, personal stories, anecdotes, links, infographics, literally anything on the topic.
Something to help one better themselves, manage their life and put some structure or control in place.
Stay away from easy answers/self-help grifters.
Think about your goals and be mindful in the choices you make, whether or not what you’re doing today is helpful or detrimental to those.
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For me it all started with a to-do list.
A list of what I want to do daily helped me form better habits, a list of what I want done by the end of the week helps me stop procrastinating.
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To “fix your life” you need to decide what is broken, make a plan, and stick to it.
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If you have mental health issues you need to address them. However an issue doesn’t just mean you can just blame that and do nothing, basically that means go to #1.
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Saying you are just bad at something and then not following through is a copout. You forget calendars and lists? You forget your cell phone in random places and then have to replace it too then right? No. Well any modern smart phone has a calendar and a to do list. Again return to #1.
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The next big one most people state is they don’t have the time. Again it’s a copout unless you are working 80 hours a week or have a multi hour daily commute. The truth is you don’t make the time, see statement #1.
I’m dealing with the same stuff with my adult stepson. He works about 20 hours per week and complains about his job but won’t take the steps to learn new skills or get a driver’s license. There are 168 hours a week, in those 168 hours an average person sleeps 56 hours. That means there are 112 hours per week you are awake, subtract the number of hours you work and then figure out how many you are currently wasting to play games and watch TV or just goof off. Divide that time in half and dedicate that time to doing the crap you don’t like doing and get it done, then go learn a skill that will put you in a better job or make your life better.
You have a lot of choices in life, but through action or inaction you make a decision. You can either make better decisions or accept the results of the decisions you make.
It might sound harsh but the world isn’t going to hold your hand like a toddler, it is however going to kick you square in the face a few times. And believe me I know exactly how it feels.
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My suggestion is to be mindful of things you are doing and make decisions about continuing them or ending them and plan accordingly. I tend to recommend reading up on Stoicism as it help contextualize.
A more specific plan is to pick one thing you want to improve and practice that. Try and do this once a day and make it a habit. After you’ve adopted a couple of good habits, you’ll be ready to try stopping something, thought that is tougher to achieve.
What are you having trouble with thats on your mind. Gotta be more specific
lol, wow… don’t even know where to begin tbh. I’m just a mess and want to fix my life. don’t know what day it is, don’t use calendars, can’t manage any tasks, low motivation, never know where/what to start with, horrible with money, house is a dumpster… almost literally. I forget/never know when garbage pickup is so I forget to put it out, a lot… so it sits in the house for 2 weeks, unless I forget again. tried making lists of things, forget or lose the lists.
I’m just horrible at being an adult in general.
If at all possible: See a doctor and check if you have adhd or other issues and perhaps get treatment if it turns out you do. This sounds a lot like a mental health issue that could be a range of things, including just depression.
