My ex “K” just broke up with me. She said she would like to still be friends, though, and since the breakup was friendly, I gladly said I was fine with that.

  • Twongo [she/her]@lemmy.ml
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    8 days ago

    I’m still in touch with my first ever partner after almost 8 years after the breakup. I still very much love them, but not romantically though, they’re a person i wouldn’t want to miss in life!

    BUT even with them we only started being friends about 2 years after the breakup. I can say for myself my dumb ass wouldn’t be able to process that emotionally at an earlier point.

    My last partner blocked me everywhere, but considering the circumstances i can’t blame them. We were both bringing out the worst in each other and the shit life threw at us was just too much to handle - depression, cancer diagnosis (i really hope they’re doing well) & financial troubles.

    so it depends on the case.

  • But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    Im actually the kind to say when you break up move on. Still being friends is a recipe for many disasters. Especially once you’re in a long term or get married

  • mx_smith@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    I still talk to my ex-wife since we had kids together. They are adults now so it’s a lot less that we talk but still amicable.

  • Banana@sh.itjust.works
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    11 days ago

    I wasn’t gonna comment but for sake of diversity I feel you deserve at least one good one. I’m actually quite close with one of my exes from 13 years ago. We dated when I was graduating highschool he broke up with me (very respectfully. He basically just told me I deserved someone who liked me as much as I like them, and he was right).

    Anyway, he and I didn’t really hang out much or talk much for a while but we were in the same community and would see each other at metal shows all the time and weren’t unfriendly but would just kind of live our own lives. Once my ego healed a bit from being dumped we did hook up a couple times. Then some time passed and I met my partner of now over a decade. Anyway, me and the ex still chat, he’s met my partner and they get along very well. My ex is a genuinely kind and funny guy and I would be a reference for him any day and I consider him more my friend than my ex at this point.

    I really do think time apart is important because they need to become not a constant fixture in your life before you can repair the relationship to “friend” level.