I got harassed by men by the gay bar outside my apartment multiple times in my early twenties, back when I was a guy. They were all pretty minor overall, but it definitely freaked me out at the time. I lived in an apartment complex above a gay bar in downtown. It was a shitty, cheap place where there was no washer or dryer in unit and no fan in the bathroom. Mold was a constant problem.
One time, I was informed I “swish so hard I bring three people with me”, a quote that’s stuck with me forever, and then a dude stood close by while another guy stroked my face. I had my dog with me so I didn’t know what else to do and basically just ran.
Another time I was leaving the pizza shop also in this building complex, and a couple drunk guys out there struck up a conversation that quickly became my chest and crotch getting groped. Honestly less creepy than the face stroking, ngl.
I uh, transitioned since all of that happened though. And some random chick like me saying some drunk guys at the gay bar really wanted to grope me doesn’t really carry much weight at this point.
Somehow I don’t imagine gay men being the bullies/rapists that I know straight men can be. Good reminder they come in all shapes and sizes. Are these kind of encounters any less common now, post-transition?
I just don’t really care tbh. I know my chromosomes haven’t changed, I’m fully sterile, and at this point the nature of my biology only really effects my doctors. I’m under no delusion that I can one day give birth or anything, if that’s what you’re driving at?
So, Im sorry, for my own understanding, are you sterilized from drug treatment?
the nature of my biology only really effects my doctors.
Come on now… I know that cant be true. Friend, be true to yourself. This world can be truly backwards, dont Listening to the judgemental voices that say you need to be something different. I promise you, be your tru r self and you will be happy. Dont listen to the voices that say you are wrong a nd need to change!.. focus… get centered. Love
Oh no, I’ve had surgery. I don’t have a penis or testicles any more.
And thank you, but don’t worry. I’m pretty secure in my identity at this point. I’m much happier in my skin than I ever was before. I just meant like, I’m running on estrogen now, I have a body I can feel comfortable in, and so I don’t know that it really matters in a practical sense what chromosomes I have or whether I’m “technically male” or something.
Its wild stuff. Thank you for indulging me. I hope i could ask a couple more questions? Like, how long ago now did you get bottom surgery (I just started learning terms like that). And, not trying to dox you, but what decade of your life did you get it done? Like over 20? Under 20? Over 30, or 40? Just in general not specific. Im glad your comfortable and doing ok. Ive watched some videos of people “detransitioning” the last couple days and I feel very sorry for some of these folks, and I was watching one person yesterday that had had bottom surgery, but then later realized its not something they should have done. So yours sounded like a similar situation at least, except the regret part. Anyway, thanks again friend.
I got harassed by men by the gay bar outside my apartment multiple times in my early twenties, back when I was a guy. They were all pretty minor overall, but it definitely freaked me out at the time. I lived in an apartment complex above a gay bar in downtown. It was a shitty, cheap place where there was no washer or dryer in unit and no fan in the bathroom. Mold was a constant problem.
One time, I was informed I “swish so hard I bring three people with me”, a quote that’s stuck with me forever, and then a dude stood close by while another guy stroked my face. I had my dog with me so I didn’t know what else to do and basically just ran.
Another time I was leaving the pizza shop also in this building complex, and a couple drunk guys out there struck up a conversation that quickly became my chest and crotch getting groped. Honestly less creepy than the face stroking, ngl.
I uh, transitioned since all of that happened though. And some random chick like me saying some drunk guys at the gay bar really wanted to grope me doesn’t really carry much weight at this point.
Somehow I don’t imagine gay men being the bullies/rapists that I know straight men can be. Good reminder they come in all shapes and sizes. Are these kind of encounters any less common now, post-transition?
Not everyone born with a penis is a bully/rapist. Please stop perpetuating this idea.
You’re right, but it’s also like a 9:1 ratio between penis-havers and vagina-havers doing the violence and the raping. 🤷♂️
So, now you are girl? But you weren’t before?
Yeah, pretty much. I know different trans people think about themselves pre-transition differently, but that’s how I see it for myself
Let’s ask this a different way, you were a biological male, are you still a biological male?
I just don’t really care tbh. I know my chromosomes haven’t changed, I’m fully sterile, and at this point the nature of my biology only really effects my doctors. I’m under no delusion that I can one day give birth or anything, if that’s what you’re driving at?
So, Im sorry, for my own understanding, are you sterilized from drug treatment?
Come on now… I know that cant be true. Friend, be true to yourself. This world can be truly backwards, dont Listening to the judgemental voices that say you need to be something different. I promise you, be your tru r self and you will be happy. Dont listen to the voices that say you are wrong a nd need to change!.. focus… get centered. Love
Oh no, I’ve had surgery. I don’t have a penis or testicles any more.
And thank you, but don’t worry. I’m pretty secure in my identity at this point. I’m much happier in my skin than I ever was before. I just meant like, I’m running on estrogen now, I have a body I can feel comfortable in, and so I don’t know that it really matters in a practical sense what chromosomes I have or whether I’m “technically male” or something.
Its wild stuff. Thank you for indulging me. I hope i could ask a couple more questions? Like, how long ago now did you get bottom surgery (I just started learning terms like that). And, not trying to dox you, but what decade of your life did you get it done? Like over 20? Under 20? Over 30, or 40? Just in general not specific. Im glad your comfortable and doing ok. Ive watched some videos of people “detransitioning” the last couple days and I feel very sorry for some of these folks, and I was watching one person yesterday that had had bottom surgery, but then later realized its not something they should have done. So yours sounded like a similar situation at least, except the regret part. Anyway, thanks again friend.