I have social anxiety and never been in a relationship and find it very difficult as an average looking dude to meet women. I get bad anxiety when trying to approach a girl I like or find attractive so avoid it. I’m still working on myself so I know that needs to come first. Just looking to see what others did to find a girlfriend with similar difficulties.
I feel like the belief that physical appearance is the most significant factor in attracting a mate itself betrays a vast misunderstanding and suggests a need for deep self-work.
Biggest tip: don’t look for a girlfriend, look for friends. Find something you enjoy doing that can be done with other people, and just make friends through that. Eventually you’ll like one of your female friends enough to want to ask her out, and be comfortable enough around her to not be worried about rejection
I know you’ve likely heard this before, but it’s the best way to find a good partner. I met my fiance through my church young adults group, and we were friends for years before starting dating, now we’re getting married this January.
I first started by making a thread asking people for advice while laying the blame on “females”. Then I ignored all of those people telling me that my personality was the issue, leaving comments so juvenile that the entire thread got taken down. Then, I posted the same shit the next day, but this time blaming my anxiety, still in heavy denial that it’s actually my complete inability to self reflect on how I treat women that is leaving me single.
Oh way, that was you, not me. My b.
Churvch
You’re going to get mass downvoted
darn Protestants downvoting mass.
