“as a man”
speaking as a dude, you’re embarrassing us homie. cut it out or go eat a dick or something
I mean, his strategy didn’t work - but what is disturbing is that there are women who have low self esteem or were raised to be submissive and “traditional”, and his behavior acts as a filter, so that only those women will date him …
Therapy is a great idea for every brain owner
Christian fundamentalist women are the most likely to be skeptical of therapy and to prefer pastoral guidance over therapy, unfortunately - also, I have my own doubts that therapy alone would be sufficient, but it’s still better than nothing
My partner had parents that used therapy as a boogie man to get her to behave or it was for people that had something wrong with them (and you don’t have something wrong with you, right?). That made it real hard to bring it up as something that might be of use. I don’t doubt many people have similar experiences that make them adverse to seeking therapy, which is too bad because those are going to be people that could benefit greatly from it.
Super abusive, wow. Hope they’re ok, and if not hope you can be ok
That was me growing up- I got threatened with anger management therapy as young as 9yo. And now I’m a therapist lol
Okay but what about Christians and fascists, that sold theirs?
To be fair, maybe his strategy did work.
It expedited the whole process real fast.
That’s why I would always talk about religion and politics on the first date. It’s gonna come up, it’s most likely gonna introduce a deal breaker (Americans suck), so let’s check early.
“Who does that on the first date? You’re weird, Explodicle!” Yeah I know, weird dates only please.
The older I get the more absurd it sounds to me whenever anyone tells me “keep social/romantic life and politics separate!”
No. Politics relate to our fundamental values. In addition they relate to our control of the environment. There’s almost nothing better to talk about than politics
You dont build a relationship on the kind of pizza toppings you like
you don’t build a relationship on the kind of pizza toppings you like
So in my early 20s I had this gf who I would go shoplifting with, and make food for unhoused people with.
Pizza toppings were a genuinely large part of that relationship.
Goals fr fr
Right? They’re going to experience the full force of your personality sooner or later. Why not discover any incompatibilities early?
If he demands to be the breadwinner because he’s a man, then what role is actually left for his partner other than bread eater?
One can’t be like “I will do the work and provide for you, but you cannot be content being provided for”, because that’s just absolutely braindead.
“Traditional” gender roles say the man is the “breadwinner” and the woman cares for the house.
I’d bet he was picking an argument and expected her to say that she planned to work. Maybe there was some hope that someone desiring to be a trad wife wouldn’t find the first message off putting, but my money says his main goal was arguing and he blocked her because she’s cleverer than he.
You must labor! There must be hierarchy! There must be coercion!
If not, how can you even call it relationship?
I’m just a bit baffled tbh, do you reckon he was asking “what’s your role” as a rhetorical question? Because there’s no way he genuinely cares what she says, right?
I guess… Unless her profile said “as a man you must be the breadwinner”, or gave off similar vibes to that? And that’s what he was responding to, as a reply to her and not just a total bolt from the blue?
Just such a weird message 😂
Context from a social media post? That’s illegal
I just thought this once it could be fun like a sort of early Christmas present
Uhh yeah, nobody deserves to sit on ass and still get catered too… unless youre royalty is guess?
The fact that she came up with a clever response rather than just saying “Yeah…we’re done here.” Is more than this Ralph Kramden wannabe deserves, to be honest.
I actually find the answer incredibly funny and witty. I could see myself saying what he said but in an entirely sarcastic and mocking tone, basically making fun of that whole super macho male stereotype. Had a woman responded to me that way, I would have been smitten.
Right?
The entire idea of predefined “roles” in a relationship is asinine.
Unless they’re cool roles. I’ll be the wizard, you can be the barbarian. Or whatever idc.
tbh given the “alright.” to start the dude’s last message, I want the previous conversation context before judging lol
Ralph Kramden wannabe? You must either be my age or some sort of autistic savant to drag out that old chestnut.
- Too young first first run but about the right age for it to still be in the cultural zeitgeist when I was old enough.
One o these days… Pow! To the moon!
I’m honestly not too sure where else to post this kind of content. ‘Witches vs Patriarchy’ does seem like it should be more witchy content than this. But there’s no plethora of ‘blatant misogyny’ and ‘men and females’ type communities here like Reddit. And !feminism@beehaw.org seems like it’s more for articles and things of actual substance than memes or screenshots.
The very fact you thought so much about where to post it makes it okay in my book. Let’s strive to be thoughtful over blind unreachable perfection.
Fitting community or not, her answer is great and I thank you for posting it 💖
Womenstuff or femcelmemes might have been good alternatives.
Witches like bread though, so here should be fine :-)
I did consider !womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone but there’s a nice social vibe there. And while I might post a relevant meme there some time in the future, I wouldn’t want to see the place flooded with them.
Didn’t consider !femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone, I’ll see if the meme fits the vibe there in future.
aren’t femcels only attracted to women though?
I think they’re OK with memes from people who are attracted to bread, too (pansexual)
oh i genuinely don’t know other than one person who told me that.
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You literally just came in here, told us that everyone here is a hag and wished us all to hell. The post did not generalize to all men, the community does not generalize to all men, the potential type of community op wanted did not generalize to all men. If you feel attacked by a post calling out misogyny in a single instance then it’s not all men, it’s you.
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It’s vs patriarchy, not vs men. Patriarchy hurts everyone, including men.
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I’m a guy, and not only was it an appropriate response to some clown who was just about to launch into his tradwife diatribe, I also thought it was funny as hell.
Consider that you might be a snowflake for feeling personally attacked by a silly meme, crying and raging and calling everyone a hag. That says infinitely more about you than anyone your infantile comments are directed at.
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Got it. Attacking one misogynist doesn’t count as an attack the whole of patriarchy. But it does somehow count as an attack on all men?
Do you think this community is only allowed to take aim at King Patriarchy, creator and sole owner of Patriarchy Inc.?
For what it’s worth, I have seen the occasional post in this community that I felt crossed the line into misandry. This isn’t one of them. This isn’t mocking a man, it’s mocking an asshole.
Aw, diddums. Are your widdle fee fees hurt?
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Misogyny doesn’t exist enough for there to be a community for it.
Calls someone who disagrees with you online a "daddy-issue-having whore.
Cool man. Seek therapy and do some introspection.
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😂🤣😆 I’m a 67 year old cancer survivor and ex bike racer who worked in a mostly male industry for decades. Keep playing tough, sweetheart. I’ve faced far harder opponents than you ever have behind your little keyboard.
You’re just embarrassing yourself here. You’re really out here waving your paper thin little incel feelings around and whimpering for sympathy for men and lashing out at women over a funny screenshot meme. Like could you be any more pathetic?
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Since you’re so offended by us hags, I cast banishment on you
It’s so funny that you want a “blatant misogyny” community, while if there was a “blatant misandry” community all of you hags
22 words is all it took to out yourself as a misogynist.
Dude do you see that you’re being the exact “hag” you imagined?
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No, you just explode when you see a meme or comment that isn’t sexist or misandrist and repeatedly call women hags, which is much more reasonable
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Which misandrist group chat are you talking about? This comment thread between you and me, which contains no misandry but does contain you repeatedly and pointedly calling women hags?
Also, I know this is much of a muchness, but I’m a cis man, you dickhead. There are plenty of guys who don’t like the way that guys like you talk about women and whine about how difficult it is to be a man when women complain about some men being hateful.
So many men are sick of hearing other men like you berate and belittle and sideline women, and of hearing men like you only ever bring up the real issues that do affect men to try and use them as a stick to beat women with when they’re complaining about issues affecting them.
You’re pathetic. You’re a sad, little loser.
I love you.
Even without context, I laughed, that’s a funny response. Guess I’m a hag
Misandry isn’t real. Cope, guy.
Misandry is totally real, and it sucks. It’s just not a systemic issue, nor is it present in the OP.
Mental thing to say. Misandry is absolutely real.
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Shut up, titty-baby boy. Nobody likes you and misandry still isn’t real.
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Misogyny is real, misandry isn’t. What are you not understanding here, little guy?
🎵 Whoa here she comes
Look out bread she’ll chew you up
Whoa here she comes
She’s a bread eater 🎵‘Pan eater’ also works
🎵 She’s a breaaaad eater.
Breaaad eater. Oh no no.
And she is eating like
she has never eaten be-fooore. 🎵I hate you. A lot. I’ll have this in my head all day now. 🤣
🎵 I’m stiiiiiilll in a dream …bread eaterrrr🎵
My wife and I have traded being the bread winner back and forth over the years. We always called the one not making any money at the time the “bread loser”
This has given me a hilarious mental image. For whatever reason, you and your wife are discussing who should be the one to take on more hours at work. The choice shall be defined by something akin to gladiatorial combat. On a pedestal above you is a fancy loaf of bread. When the battle finishes, the winner cheers and holds the bread over their head like a wrestling championship belt
Why is he entitled to “winning” it? I have to work for it and so should he.
We should add “participation food” for children to public schools.
I doughn’t know if I want a man who isn’t well-bread. A rye sense of humour helps.
I just want one who will bring me flour-s to our date.
I think that’s the yeast of the problems.
This isnt really a community meant for me, but Im glad to see it nonetheless! Got a massive chuckle
I’d like to know how the conversation got there, because that’s a real weird message
That was his pickup line
That answer would absolutely make me interested. Though the initial question is an issue.
I’m so confused. If my guy over there likes to pose all cocky and stupid, just what kind of answers is he expecting to get? Because hers is just perfect… I reckon most people would just instantly block the guy.
“Cock vacuum” probably
Maybe he was looking for a bread loser?
So how does one win the bread? Is this some kind of championship where bread is the price?
Through a cake walk
No, bake-off. There’s a trophy. I know a lady who won in the pizza crust category once.
